Saturday, February 5, 2011

the broken zipper

There are people that touch your lives even if you have never met them.

I think one of the best things about the internet is connecting with others that you wouldn't have ever met before.

I am touched beyond words at this family. Valerie is a photographer but most importantly...a mom and a wife...a wife who is losing her husband.

I saw this video a couple of weeks ago on her blog. Through my tears I emailed her and ask her if I could show it on the blog...she politely said yes and said she was flattered. I don't know her but I love her...odd uh? I feel that sense of love for her and I just want to hug her and tell her what a wonderful and courageous person she is.

She has two little ones that are watching their Daddy struggle to live to each day. I just read her last blog post {I'm afraid to read each day hoping not to read the words we all don't want to read}...the post hit me hard...very hard. They had to take him to the hospital in the middle of the night due to pain....the ambulance came to get memories came flowing back and I was not prepared for that.

The last time I saw my Dad, the ambulance came to our house to take him away to the hospital...I was 13 years old. He died of lung cancer a few days later. I was heading out for the beach for a week babysitting for a family {more of a mommy's helper}. I knew when the ambulance took him away I'd never see him again. I'm sad to say I was relieved. We had watched him slowly die for the last year...I think we were all ready for the pain and suffering to end. The day he died I was at the beach house watching TV with the kids I was had rained all day and the feeling in the air was a cold, dreary feeling and I can't even describe the haunting way the sky looked. I'll never forget the way the air felt that day. As I watched TV, the phone rang. The parents and their friends were in the kitchen happily cooking and laughing when one grabbed the phone. Suddenly everyone was quiet and they began whispering...I knew that second but tried to keep watching TV..hoping the call had not happened. The sweet Mom {who was also our neighbor and knew our family well} walked over to me and ask me if I would walk outside with don't ask me to go outside. I slowly walked out starting to cry. She told me that was my mom on the phone...and the rest is a blur. I do remember her telling me that she too had lost a parent when she was my age...her mom and that she knew what I was going through...and she truly did. But all I could think was thank god it wasn't my mom. I remember walking back inside and everyone was there just watching me. It was a horrible feeling. I wanted {needed} my mom so bad. I went into the bedroom and packed my suitcase and as I was zipping it, the zipper broke. I was crying so hard I couldn't see. I didn't know then that for the rest of my life when I zip a suitcase, I think of that moment.

This post wasn't supposed to be about me...I sat down here to write about Valerie...and in turn I told the story that I have never told anyone.

Please pray for Valerie... please pray for Wayne... and their family.

Kiss those babies of yours today and hold them a little tighter...tell them the things you love most about them. Call your Mom and Dad today if you are lucky enough to still have them around. Tell them that you love them. Tell your spouse you love them...and will through sickness and in health...till death do you part.

Click her to visit Valerie's blog

The video was made by Jami Davis


  1. Oh my gosh! I am absolutely crying now. I am so sorry your 13 year old self had to go through this, and this other young family too. We'll definitely keep them in our prayers.

  2. Thank you so much for sharing, both your story, and the story and beautiful video of Val, Wayne, and their families. How sad their story is, but how amazing that they are blessed to be able to spend the time making memories for their families to cherish forever. The videos, and photographs will be precious reminders someday of someone that they love.

  3. Goodness, in tears reading your blog today and then bawling by the time I got to Valerie's blog. Thank you for sharing your story...I cannot even imagine losing my dad that young and then the broken zipper...:( Valerie is an amazing woman. Sending prayers to her, Wayne and those darling kiddos of theirs...

  4. Thank you for sharing that story. It really touched me. It breaks my heart that you had to go through something so difficult at such a young age. Beautifully told and a beautiful reminder of what is important.

  5. Thank you so much for this whole entire post...start to finish. My heart is breaking for this family. My prayers go out to them...xoxo

  6. Have the ugly cry going :-( Thank you so much for sharing your story as well as Valerie's. I can remember the moments around the loss of both of my parents much the same way. Funny the details that "stick"...
    Hugs and prayer!

  7. What an inspiration both you AND Val are. Puts our own lives into perspective and reminds us all of what really matters. Thank you for this beautiful post.

  8. I happened upon this post while shopping for barnwood flooring. I was amazed to read it, as Val is the sister of my sister in law and their family situation is VERY close to my heart. Thank you for posting this- the more prayers, the better. They are an AMAZING family.

  9. Tears are streaming. I just visited Val's blog and learned that he passed today. I just don't have the words to express how sorry I am for your loss. My prayers and heart are with the Koop family.

    Thank you to both of you for having the courage to tell your stories.